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Our three year-old daughter continues to pee her pants. She knows full well where she needs to go but instead she chooses to stand her ground and walk around in her stench. Part of me thinks she does it for attention. She wants me to cheer her on in the bathroom, hold her hand, and sing her praises for the good she has done. (All of which I have done.) The other part attributes it to laziness and distractions.
At times I fight feelings of frustration and anger at her failure to achieve the success I know she is capable of achieving. Other times I know she has tried her best and simply missed. I look at her and I see myself. Still I cannot help but wonder, Is her failure my fault? Have I not given her enough attention?
Have you been there with your children? Have you blamed yourself for their failure? It is hard not to blame yourself when your children fail in some area.
In the end, I know my daughter needs to learn to go to the bathroom by herself. It is the first of many tasks she will have to do by herself, tasks that will seem thankless and receive no praise from men- but God will see them and praise her for the good she has done. Trying to teach her that at her young age is not the easiest, and as I try, the Lord is teaching me the lessons that matter most.
Even in her mess, I love her. I love her just where she is at at, and in my heart, I feel God whisper, “This is how I love you.” I hope and pray for for her success. I try to speak words of correction and encouragement just as the Lord corrects and encourages me in my messes. I trust God to get us through this mess and thank him for another lesson on what matters most.