Have you ever tried to teach a young child how to tie their shoes? It is not an easy skill for most children to master. You can help teach a child by demonstrating the skill alongside the child. It may also help the child if you color one half of the lace with a marker to make the two sides easier to identify.
I have noticed with our six year-old son that the first step of tying the knot is always the easiest. The rest takes more work and patience. Regardless of how you teach it, there is usually one place in the process when it all falls apart. It happens when you try to tighten the bow by pulling each loop in two separate directions. Our son continues to come to me for help in this one step.
I cannot help but consider the process of marriage every time we go through the process of tying his shoes. It is easy to tie the knot. Problem is, if all you do is tie the knot, you are very likely to get tripped up and hurt. The two laces must be more intricately entwined and it is the same when it comes to two hearts. This is why marriage takes work and patience. It takes a willingness to bend over backward for your spouse. It takes a passion to continue to jump through hoops for your spouse.
Many couples have grown weary and traded in their, once coveted, shoes with laces. They return the Velcro days of two, totally independent straps, neither needing the other to be held together. Thank God that He has given us such a great demonstration of what love and patience should look like through the work of Jesus Christ. His death on the cross for us was the greatest demonstration of the self-sacrificing love needed to overcome anything that would cause a marriage to fall apart. By faith, we receive His love into our hearts so that we have the power to love like Him. It is our willingness to love our spouse as He demonstrated that matters most.
Go beyond tying the knot. Commit to make the double bow. Take time each day to entwine your heart with your spouse and entwine your heart with God. Strive to reach the point where your hearts are so closely tied together that it becomes difficult to identify where one ends and the other begins. Keep the laces and daily walk in something coveted and beautiful.
An enemy might be able to defeat one person, but two people can stand back-to-back to defend each other. And three people are even stronger. They are like a rope that has three parts wrapped together—it is very hard to break. -Ecclesiastes 4:12 (ERV)